Exodus 33:12-15-Moses said to the Lord, “You have been telling me, ‘Lead these people,’ but you have not let me know whom you will send with me. You have said, ‘I know you by name and you have found favor with me.’ If you are pleased with me, teach me your ways so I may know you and continue to find favor with you. Remember that this nation is your people.” The Lord replied, “My Presence will go with you, and I will give you rest.” Then Moses said to him, “If your Presence does not go with us, do not send us up from here.
When I think about identity — how we as people long to be known — I can’t help but remember a journal entry I wrote back in 2017.
I was wrestling with the question: Who am I, really, when the titles fade?
I wrote:
“We want to be known by our family name, our achievements, our circle, our status. But those things aren’t stable. When they shake, we shake, when they are no longer reliable, we become lost."
At that time, I was building, striving, performing — attaching my worth to what I produced instead of who I belonged to. And when things crumbled, so did my confidence. I realized I had become an imitator of people instead of an imitator of Christ. That revelation wrecked me — but it also rebuilt me.
The Turning Point: When God Interrupted My Striving
It was in that same season that Exodus 33:12-15 came alive to me. Moses’ words pierced through every layer of performance in my life:
“If Your Presence does not go with us, do not send us up from here.”
- I had been trying to “go” — without His Presence.
- I wanted purpose, but I didn’t want the process.
- I wanted clarity, but I was chasing confirmation.
And in His mercy, God didn’t reject me — He redirected me. He reminded me that my true identity wasn’t tied to my doing. It was anchored in His being.
5 Hidden Characteristics That Help Us Identify the Enemy of Identity
As I began this journey, God started showing me five patterns — lies that kept me bound to false identities:
⦁ Performance: Trying to earn what’s already freely given. For years, I thought my worth was tied to what I could produce.
I built business after business, checked all the boxes, served everyone around me — but deep down, I was running from stillness. I didn’t realize that my constant doing was actually rooted in fear — fear of not being enough.
When I first started hearing God’s voice, He wasn’t asking me to do anything — He was inviting me to be. But I didn’t understand that yet.
Kingdom Truth: God doesn’t reward performance; He responds to presence.
⦁ Fear: Letting insecurity dictate your pace and peace. After my healing from Crohn’s, I carried a quiet fear that it could all fall apart again — that if I didn’t keep moving, serving, or giving, I’d lose the miracle.
But that fear wasn’t faith; it was control disguised as faithfulness.
It took years for me to understand that slowing down doesn’t equal failure — it’s actually a sign of trust. Scripture Callout:
“Be still, and know that I am God.” — Psalm 46:10
⦁ Orphan/Rejection: Believing you’re overlooked, forgotten, or unqualified. This one ran deep. Growing up, I often felt like I had to prove that I belonged. Even after my healing, there were moments I wondered, “Why me?”
I carried that orphan mindset into relationships, business, and ministry — always searching for affirmation that could only come from the Father. It wasn’t until I started allowing myself to be seen by Him, not just used by Him, that my healing became whole.
Kingdom Truth: You are not an orphan trying to earn love; you are a daughter walking in inheritance.
⦁ Hidden/Buried: Staying small because being seen feels unsafe. There was a season when my voice went silent. I knew God was calling me to speak — to tell my story — but fear of judgment made me hide.
“Arise, shine, for your light has come.” — Isaiah 60:1
⦁ Multiple/Fragmented: Carrying too many labels — when “Daughter” is enough. For years, I wore so many titles: entrepreneur, coach, mom, leader, friend. But each label carried expectations — and pressure. Pressure to always perform, pressure to always be available, pressure to be something that I wasn't. It drained me, I was worn out trying to be something that I wasn't and I was exhausted.
And the thing is, I didn't know how to escape, I didn't know how to be the person God created me to be...authentic, genuine and loved.
It wasn’t until God stripped away the titles that I realized He never called me to be everything — just to be His. Now, my identity isn’t scattered — it’s anchored. When I live from the truth that I’m a Daughter of the King, every other role finds alignment.
And here's the truth, I walk this out daily, and everyday I'm given a choice, to live in my old identity or live in alignment as a Daughter first.
Kingdom Truth: When your identity is whole, your calling flows.
These are the lies that cause us to imitate what looks “successful,” rather than reflect the One who called us.
Maybe you’ve felt one (or all) of these.
Here's the good news? Each one loses its grip when you start building from Presence instead of pressure.
How It Shows Up in Business (and Life)
You might recognize it in subtle ways:
- Hustling instead of flowing.
- Competing instead of collaborating.
- Overthinking instead of obeying.
- Saying “yes” to everything but losing sight of your lane.
Think about that for a moment. Go back and review the subtle ways that the old identities have shown up in your life, especially if you feel pressure or tension around it.
When your identity is misaligned, your business becomes your idol. But when your identity is anchored, your business becomes your assignment.
Kingdom Business Insight
When you know who you are, everything shifts.
- Strategy becomes Spirit-led, not stress-driven.
- Productivity flows from peace, not pressure.
- You stop chasing visibility — and start carrying authority.
Because in the Kingdom, identity precedes influence.
How to Rebuild Your Identity as a Daughter:
The 4 Keys to Rebuilding
Here’s the blueprint God gave me:
- Return to His Presence. Don’t move without Him. (Exodus 33:15)- When I was sick, I learned how fragile life can be. But after being healed, I learned how fragile independence can be. There’s a difference between doing for God and walking with God. When I was first healed, I was eager to run. I wanted to do something for God — to prove my gratitude. But God wasn’t asking me to perform; He was inviting me to abide.
When Moses said, “If Your Presence does not go with us, do not send us up from here.” — Exodus 33:15
The truth is: I had learned to function in survival mode, not in intimacy. It wasn’t until I slowed down and sat in His Presence — no agenda, no ministry title, no proving — that I started to feel safe in His love again. Your healing will always require His Presence. Because Presence brings peace, and peace anchors identity.
Kingdom Key: Don’t just seek His promises. Seek His Presence — it’s the safest place to rebuild.
- Renew Your Mind. Trade lies for truth. (Romans 12:2)-Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.
Healing didn’t erase my old thought patterns overnight. No, I lived with old thought patterns for years, until I began asking God the hard questions. Asking God, "Why do I act this way?" "Why can't I hold onto relationships?" -I didn't know that the trauma I went through would be years to break. I didn't know that those patterns were systems that were strongholds (talk about a real battlefield of the mind).
Even after I was healed in my body, my identity—my mindset—was still fixated on the disease and how it had changed me. I was healed, but still thinking like someone broken. My habits, my fears, even how I interacted with others still revolved around what used to be wrong with me.
That’s when the Holy Spirit began to show me:
“You’ve been made whole, but you’re still living like you’re waiting for the next symptom.”
Healing isn’t just an event; it’s a process of renewal. Every day, I had to align my thoughts with Heaven’s truth: “Wholeness is my portion.” “Health is my inheritance.” “I am not who I was.”
“Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.” — Romans 12:2
I needed God and the Word to break those "systems" and to create a new system found in the word
My standing scriptures were (and still are):
- Isaiah 26:3
- Psalms 139:23-24
- 2 Corinthians 10:3-6
- Exodus 33:12-16 and more!
Kingdom Key: Healing begins where your mindset shifts from fear of what was to faith in what God already finished.
- Remember Who You Are. You’ve been crucified with Christ. (Galatians 2:20)-I have been crucified with Christ and I no longer live, but Christ lives in me. The life I now live in the body, I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave himself for me.
This is identity. It’s no longer “the girl who had Crohn’s,” but the daughter who carries Christ within. The power that raised Him from the dead lives in me — and that changes everything.
“I have been crucified with Christ; it is no longer I who live, but Christ lives in me.” — Galatians 2:20
Take a few minutes here and ask yourself: Where am I still defining myself by what God has already delivered me from?
- Release Comparison. You are consecrated, not copied. When God starts rebuilding you, it’s easy to look around and measure your progress by someone else’s pace. But that’s not Kingdom. When I began walking in my healing, I looked around at others in ministry and business who seemed “further ahead.” But the Holy Spirit gently corrected me:
“You can’t carry the oil I’ve placed on your life if you’re busy trying to wear someone else’s robe.”
Comparison is the enemy’s counterfeit for calling. It pulls you out of your lane and makes you question your grace. God didn’t heal you to perform — He healed you to become.
Kingdom Key: You can’t imitate fruit you haven’t cultivated. Stay rooted, and your harvest will come.
“You are a chosen generation, a royal priesthood…” — 1 Peter 2:9
- Reflect His Nature. Lead from love, not lack. (Ephesians 5:1-2)-When you’ve lived in survival mode for years, it’s easy to lead from fear — even when you look strong on the outside.
When I stopped leading from fear and started leading from love, everything changed — how I show up, how I build, how I serve even how I parent.
“Therefore be imitators of God, as beloved children; and walk in love, just as Christ also loved you…” — Ephesians 5:1–2
To reflect His nature means to release control, release hustle, release striving — and let His love flow through your voice, your vision, your business.
Kingdom Key: Wholeness is not perfection — it’s presence. When you stay close to Him, you reflect Him.
Activations: Action Steps for Today
🕊️ Journal Prompt:
“What false labels have I agreed with that God never gave me?”
This is where you journal out all the false labels you hear. And cancel them. Get the opposite of that false label with scripture-and every time you sense or hear that false label.
- Break agreement with it.
- Take authority over it.
- Declare the word of God.
🗣️ Identity Confessions:
- I am not defined by performance; I am defined by Presence.
- I am a daughter, fully loved and fully seen.
- I build from rest, not from striving.
- I walk in authority because I walk with Jesus.
- My business, my family, and my voice are aligned with His Kingdom purpose.
💡 Kingdom Practice:
Spend 10 minutes today in silence — no music, no noise — and simply invite His Presence to speak.
Ask Him, “Who do You say I am?
Your Next Steps
🎯“What if the only thing holding you back isn’t your strategy—but an old identity?
- Start your realignment journey:
- Take the Kingdom Identity Assessment
- Discover what’s shaping your worldview — and how to return to your true identity.
📩 Get your personalized breakdown + next steps when you finish the quiz.
🎯 Take the Assessment → [Here]
🎧 Listen to the full podcast episode “Who Told You That Was Your Identity?”
💬 Share this post with another Daughter of the King who’s ready to trade performance for Presence.
Final Reflection
Identity isn’t about titles, platforms, or perfection — it’s about Presence.
- You don’t have to perform to be loved.
- You don’t have to strive to be seen.
- You simply have to remember who you are.
Because when you know who you are, everything changes.
"Your voice is a powerful weapon to unlock the vision God has placed inside you. As your identity coach, I’m committed to equipping you with the keys to walk boldly in your calling."
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About Me + Brand Story
Hi, I’m Idina—a Kingdom entrepreneur, Holy Spirit-led identity coach, and voice of truth called to help women heal, rediscover their God-given identity, and build with clarity and excellence.
My story is one of surrender, faith, and resilience. I know what it’s like to strive for validation, tie myself to the wrong people, and face the pain of misplaced trust—even within the church. But God healed me, restored my voice, and taught me how to build from a place of wholeness and Kingdom alignment to build healthy relationships with Him, with others and within myself.
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